Chronic illness comes with random “rewards” and things you don’t really think of. There’s lots of bits and bobs that you don’t imagine, that become a really big part of your life, when being sick becomes the biggest part of your life. Here’s a few silly little bits that I’ve noticed in the last few days.
“Random” Increases in the Credit Card Bill - During a Flare
When I have a pain flare, that crashes me in bed, or on the couch, I live in the world vicariously through Amazon, Anthropologie and Ulta (primarily, but not exclusively, of course). In other words, I imagine what I would wear, how I would wear my makeup, what fancy soap I might wash with, if I showered, and what I might read or do, if I moved more than a centimeter. I don’t actually use any of these items for weeks beyond the flare, but I damn well buy them, in anticipation.
Most recently, I bought this thing. It’s a bit out of my comfort zone, but I’ve wanted to dare a wrap/kimono/poncho-type sweater thing for a while. I’ve given up on the idea that I’m too short, or too anything to wear clothes I’ve longed to wear. I’ve been watching the sales for one, and poof, finally hit a good one, at the right time. You always know you are getting something good when the model looks ambivalent, or even annoyed to be wearing the product. Bryon loves my sales-watching. It got me a $499 coat this year for Christmas for less than $150. I wouldn’t be able to dress the way I do without hawk-eyed sale-watching. The Anthropologie sale rack and I are very well-acquainted.
Thank goodness for a husband who tolerates my habit of pretending to be normal when I’m sick, and therefore spending very non-pretend money on presents for myself. When I’m not in a flare, I spend like a normal person; actually, I spend less, so it averages out. They should make a rewards card that doubles points when you spend insane amounts, all at once, and then zero amounts later. In other words, I want rewards for being me, because I’m special. I’m a snowflake, dammit.
I guess I’ll have to make do with the Ulta rewards I’ve earned, so far, this year. I’m saving it for my next flare, so I can go bananas on randomly colored eye-liner that I’m only just getting brave enough to wear beyond the boundaries of my hallway.
The Appointment Line
The military health system is take-the-good-with-the bad.
We don’t have to worry about the ACA being repealed because the Cheeto-Elect hasn’t written a policy that covers self-tanner, prostitutes, golden showers and syphilis-prevention, but not abortions, or birth control, because damn, that’s amoral! Who am I kidding? He can’t write! But seriously, I'm so grateful for military healthcare, because we don't have to worry about it.
Anyway, the worst part, and I kid you not, this truly is the worst part of Tricare (at the moment), so I have nothing to really complain about, is that Tricare thinks it saves money to remind patients that they have pending referrals. An automated line calls you every three days with a recorded message, telling you that “the patient born on XX/XX/XXXX has an active referral and should make an appointment.” Because I have approximately a million specialists and two million referrals, I get calls every day (because they are staggered). Because Collin has approximately half a million specialists, he gets calls every other day. Ironically, their efficient system has no stop-gap measure to notify itself that the appointments have been made. It’s a very specific type of persistent telemarketer.
Guilt Over Random and Specific Things
I watched an interview with a millennial star, a young Justin Bieber-ish-Clone (I’m so old!) who thinks they are the shit because they do movies, make music, and are also trying to change the world, one Tweet at a time. He made me feel terrible because he talked primarily about how if we all just stopped using straws, we could eliminate some staggering amount of garbage, in landfills, every year.
The specificity that it was straws made me feel like the shittiest person in the world because, well, I use a lot of straws. Tilting my head backward, to drink hurts. “Oh, but Rachel,” you say, “you have an excuse, it’s okay.” But, do I? I feel like when we know we could do something in a gentler way, none of us has an excuse to do something in the worst way. That goes for anything from using too much trash, to simply being nicer to one another. Open a door, hand a pan-handler your change, thank your waitress, be kind.
With a severe lack of appetite, I barely eat as it is, so I drink a lot of smoothies. Know what doesn’t go down a regular straw very well? Smoothies. Bryon found these amazing, massive, use-extra-plastic smoothie straws! They are even more wasteful, but also even more awesome. The whole idea is so plaguing to me, I think of it all the time. So, I wash straws and reuse them for days.
What’s my point? When you are sick and have a lot of time on your hands, you both have the time and the energy to wash straws, and to care about washing them. You become vexed by stupid stuff, and then wondering if it isn’t stupid after all; in the long run, it’s the small stuff that adds up to changing the world. Damn straws!
While writing this, to add some links though, I found these. Stainless steel, reusable straws. Guess whose Amazon Prime account got some more activity today?
Yep, got some. I even got some smoothie-sized ones.
Apparently, the no-straw thing is a big deal for the National Park Service, too. I always knew it was a no-straw zone, but learning more every day. Phew, you learn a lot when you’ve got time to care about things like straws. See, what I mean. Being sick comes with both, for lack of a better word, punishments, and perks.
Other Random, Disconnected Sick People “Perks” From This Flare
- Sun Glare on the TV, but you can’t move because of pain, to either shut the drapes, or change angles. Alas, until the sun reaches its peak, half the television might as well be in shadow. Such a “first-world,” problem, a term I hate. A problem is a problem.
- I found a new perfume that I love from free-with-purchase Ulta samples. Taking “French” showers because both I stink, and my pajamas stink from lack of showering helps force you into the sample bags. Daisy, by Marc Jacobs. If you are curious, it doesn’t smell good when your son uses all of your samples, all at once, several sprays each. He did it about five days ago, and the bathroom still stinks. What’s the problem here? Daisy was over $80. It was a better deal to buy the gift set. Oh well, another present for me! I’m too old for drugstore perfume, right?
- Running out Netflix shows. Theoretically, this is impossible; but, the reality is that indecisiveness is the actual problem, so I scroll, and scroll, until exhausted, I just stop on the first thing I see. Did you know that there is a whole section devoted to weird sex habits of the English? I didn’t. It was an accidental discovery on an incredibly misleading title. Now, Netflix thinks I’m a pervert, with a very specific interest in the sex lives of middle-aged Brits.
- I’m home so often, that I can distinctly tell when someone has made a home, or auto-improvement that is “noisy.” For example, the mini-van down the street, has installed a very loud, and very piercing backup beeper, just in case its ever involved in a, well, there’s no way to finish that sentence logically. It’s a MINI-van. It doesn’t need a backup beeper. That’s insane. This is how I imagine the conversation about getting it installed going:
Female of Household: There’s lots of kids in this neighborhood, dear. I think a beeper would be a good idea.
Male of Household: Don’t you think it’s overkill?
Male (knowing he’ll lose anyway): Yes, dear
- I’ve learned that Loki truly does like to lick your face. And your hands. And your eyes. And, he thinks he can fit his head in your mouth. To what end, I have no idea, but he’s determined to do it, every time I yawn, which with muscle spasms, happens a lot. I’m not sure what he hopes to find in there, but he’s a black cat, so maybe he’s looking for his soul. I should clarify that it’s really only my face, hands and eyes he’s interested in. We’ve bonded, which I can’t say that I hate. I love those darn animals, except that he likes to do his soul-searching at 4 am.
- My pajama radius has expanded to, pretty much, anywhere. And, it doesn’t matter what kind of pajamas I’m wearing. I used to put sweat pants on, if I were getting in the car, leaving the house, letting the dog out, or getting the mail. Now, I don’t care. I drive Collin to and from school in footie pajamas and a robe. I stand on my patio that way with Daphne. This flare broke me for good. Considering lots of my pajamas have hoods and tails, because they are adorable, you’ve got to be pretty confident in your game to let that radius expand. “Why yes kindly neighbor, I am wearing a kitty tail. What of it?” My radius is only getting bigger. For “How I Met Your Mother Fans,” I’m thinking this is similar to the underpants radius rules, which still stand firm, for me, at shower to closet.